It's so easy when people say something nice to us or pay us a compliment, to quickly disagree or wave it away. Is this a British thing? I'm not sure.
One of the things that I have tried to do over the last 12-months is accept a compliment. Just say thank you and believe that the person means what they are saying!
Anyone that suffers with low self confidence will be familiar with the internal comments and bad opinions of themselves. These comments where we put ourselves down and say things about ourselves on a daily basis. Things like "I'm so fat" or "why would anyone want to spend time with me, I'm so annoying". I do it with this blog, I'm always surprised anyone would want to read it! What we should be doing is being proud of ourselves. We should be happy with our achievements and pay ourselves compliments when they are deserved.
It is so easy to focus on the negatives in life, worry about all of the things you didn't do rather than be proud of the things you have done. Even small achievements in a busy day help you to realise that you are making progress and haven't wasted a day. I started to write down four things in a day that I could check off as achievements, this helped me with my confidence and gave me something to focus on.
When I was really poorly these were things like washing up, tidying or going for a walk. As time went on I would expand on these and add bigger things onto the list. When I found that the day ran away with me and a busy day at work would mean I didn't get these things done I had to switch it around. I think back at the end of the day of the things that Ive done and I write these things down. This shows me that I have achieved something and not wasted a day. It's important to take note of these things not only during a recovery period but in day to day life as it is very easy to quickly forget the good things or even the normal things and end up feeling bad about yourself.
These feelings then spiral and come out with negative comments and feelings. Looking back at the good things can push these aside and make the day a little brighter!